Let’s start by busting some pegging myths: the most common one being that if you’re a guy, getting pegged is always a submissive thing. I can assure you it doesn’t have to be. If you are submissive, then of course pegging can be worked into a smoking hot D/s scene – I’ll make you suck my cock and beg for it until you’re quivering and desperate for the moment I tell you to spread ’em. But equally, pegging can be enjoyed for the simple pleasure of being filled, stretched, and stimulated. After all, the prostate is easily stimulated through pegging, which can lead to more intense and longer lasting orgasms—and who doesn’t want that? A nice firm silicone cock, a liberal handful of lube, and the pressure you feel as I push it up against you – teasing you for a moment before I slip inside.

And now, onto the admin side of pegging: there are two key things that make for a great pegging session – preparation and equipment. Let’s start with the prep.

One of the things most people are shy about is cleanliness. Understandably, no one wants a hot play session to be spoiled by worries about mess. That’s why I’m here to help! Here’s a quick three-step guide on how to make sure you’re sparkling clean:

1. Go. I know, it’s awkward to say it, but it’s the number one cause of nerves and it doesn’t have to be. Have a cup of coffee, or do whatever you need to make sure you’re empty. I promise you’ll be glad of it later.

2. Shower. This one probably goes without saying, but hey. Pay extra attention to your ass, giving it a good scrub. Use the shower head directly if you like, and let warm water spray right up against you, rivulets of warm water running up and inside you. And… well… if your shower doubles up as a little self-tease session, where you work a finger or two in to prepare for your pegging later? That’s just an added bonus.

3. If you want to be super-clean (or if you’re a submissive and you want to earn brownie points) then you can use a douche. It’s not as scary as it sounds – you can buy simple douches from most sex shops, and if the water’s a nice body temperature, then it’s actually intensely pleasurable.

If you’re contacting me for a pegging session, the best way to put a big smile on my face is to tell me what you find sexy about the idea of pegging. Is it surrendering control to a dominant woman? Is it the sensations? Is it part of a role-play fantasy? Besides that I am hugely turned on by reading your thoughts on this, establishing the underlying desire is the key to how I build a successful scene. At this stage, it’s also worth telling me if there is anything that you don’t want to feel. For instance, while somebody may imagine pegging as part of a humiliation scene, someone else may not wish to ever feel degraded. Everyone is unique when it comes to pegging and that’s the beauty of being an expert on it! Finally, sharing your level of experience and comfort with pegging can be very helpful in choosing the size of dildo that is best for you. If you already have a good idea about the size that’s great! Some people want to feel super-stretched, others prefer something slimmer and easier to accommodate. I’ve no preference but if size matters a lot to you, then have a think about it. I’ve got a collection of premium quality dildos to choose from. I can either decide for you or we can pick one together that you like the look and feel of. If you want to bring along something that you know you enjoy using, that’s fantastic – it means we can spend less time choosing and more time playing!

Now that the boring admin’s out of the way, we can get down to the fun part: pegging itself. You may wonder what’s in it for me… First of all, it makes me feel powerful – sometimes protective if you’re timid and shy, sometimes cruel if you’re the kind of guy who needs to be put in his place. Strapping on a nice thick cock and sliding it into you gives me the chance to control the pace, and give you sensations you could never achieve on your own – and I like that very much. I find the combination of physical stimulation I get from the base of the dildo while I am penetrating you along with the mental thrill of “flipping the script” unique in pegging. Even the simple visual is enough to turn me on but it’s this rare combination of dominance and intimacy that put pegging on my top sexual activities list. Perhaps before I peg you I’ll ask you to suck on my cock: look up at me with eager eyes as you try to swallow the whole thing. Spitting on it, licking it, taking the full length right to the back of your throat… Or maybe I’ll just order you to lie down like a good boy and slowly warm you up with a finger or two before I lube it up ready to slip inside you…